Friday, July 22, 2011

A Mistaken Romance

There are some relationships that we get into that may be alright for the time being, but later on, we discover that it was a mistake to be together. This doesn't just have to apply to intimate bf/gf relationships. This can also apply to friendships. I have made plenty of friends over my 23 years of life. I have made a few best friends, a lot of good friends, and a few friends that I no longer speak to and realize that maybe our relationship as friends probably should never had occured. With those few friends that I never speak to anymore, our relationship ended in the worst possible way. (E-mail me to know the whole story.) It's funny when you think about it. They might have been really nice, but the last memory of the person usually stick in our mind longer than the beginning of the friendship when it was very good. Why is that?

I think that even though we all may agree that these bad break-ups by friends, loved ones, etc. are mistakes, it never stops us from wanting to seek out new friends. I think the only thing you can do after a friendship ends is to learn what went wrong and know what not to do next time. You may not want to speak with the old friend for awhile, but when making new friends, you can try to avoid causing the same incident that occured in the previous friendship.

This was especially true in my next story. Follow this link: A Mistaken Romance. It is a story, how one woman was in a relationship with a guy in junior high and how that relationship spiraled out of control after ten years. Although she is still not with the guy anymore and has been happily married with someone else, the guy is still hung-up on her and wants to be with her. This is an example of how we can not change the past, but how we can still make the best possible future out of a current situation.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Sweet Revenge: Is It Really Worth It?

Have you ever felt like you needed to exact revenge on somebody that has said or done something to embarrass you? How many of you can actually say that revenge actually stopped the person from going after you again? People can be cruel sometimes. I haven't told many people about this, but when I was in 4th grade, I was a victim of emotional and physical abuse. There was only one instance where my "so-called" friends kicked me and resorted to physical abuse. As much as the physical abuse hurt me, the emotional abuse hurt way much more.

In 3rd grade, I was this happy-go-lucky 9 year old girl. But the very next year, every girl in the class had turned on me and started picking on me because they saw me as the weakest link. They learned that they could call me names or force me to do what they wanted, making me think that I would get something that I wanted in return. But in the end, they never gave me anything that they had promised me. Since I was shy and introverted young girl back then, I just stood back and let them push me around and put me down. I came home almost every single day of school, crying and wishing that the bullying would end. My parents would see if cry and comfort me and try to talk me through the situation. They would try to tell me how to handle the situation, but how was I supposed to take advice from my parents when they hadn't gone through anything like I had? Every time I was bullied at school, my parents would let the teacher know and she would have these separate group talks. But it just made everything worse. I felt like everytime we had to have group talks during our recesses, the teacher was just singling me out that I was the one that reported the problem. The girls all knew that I was the only one they picked on and they came after me even harder. Now, I just wished that I had the strength to stand up for myself, or even to just decide to not hang out with them.

I have to live with my experiences for the rest of my life. I resented what happened to me and hated the girls that bullied me for years to come. But that's in the past now. I may always hate what they did, but I can't let them run my life. I am stronger now because of that experience and I will not let anyone mess with my head again. The trick is to stand up for yourself and not let what the person says bother you.

The following link is a story that I wrote. It is a sequel to A Family's Support. After what happened in the previous story, the characters thought that they had to take revenge, instead of letting them receive their own consequences that are awaiting them later on. Sweet Revenge

Friday, May 27, 2011

A Family's Support

There have been times in my life where I thought I was alone and I longed for people to support me and give me words of encouragement. Has anyone else ever felt the same? As I felt like this, my family was around men giving me the love and support that I needed. I realized how lucky I am to have a family that loves and cares for me so much and would do anything for me. It doesn't matter what I did wrong because they will always support me and figure out a way to help me through any situation.

As I was writing my next story, this was exactly what I thought about. I remembered all of the times that my family supported me and wanted to capture that support in a story. Here is the link: A Family's Support. My stories are basically a fictional diary of my life. I make up characters that express who I am. Try to take a guess at what character you think is me?

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Picture Perfect Family

What does a perfect family look like? Can we simply define what a perfect family should look like for every person on Earth? I have always thought of the perfect family to be a loving and supporting family, who always had each other's back. No matter what you were going through, your family would always be there for you. When you are having a hard time, your family would an ear to listen and a shoulder to lean on. And when you are going through an exciting experience, your family is there to enjoy the experience with you.

This idea of the perfect family is what I have experienced personally. I have always been blessed to have a family that has supported me through thick and thin. We have had our ups and downs, but we have always supported each other.

Here is a story that I have written about a Picture Perfect Family.

Picture Perfect Daughter

 Have you ever wondered how you can be the perfect daughter to your parents? In order to have the best relathionship with your parents, what kind of behavior do you think that you should have? Can you really be perfect little angels towards your mother and father all the time and not have any flaws? Is this even possible? If not, what would it take to be the perfect daughter that your parents would want you to be?

I have thought of this often. And I think it comes down to two conditons to follow. First, you must follow the fifth commandment and honor your father and mother. If we respect our parents and value their opinions and insight, they will most likely being able to respect and honor you more easily. And second, follow your heart. Do what you know in your heart is the right thing to do. If you are happy and you generate a positive attitude, that energy will grow and multiply into your family and they will project happiness in return. Sometimes, I gets difficult when obstacles block your path in life and you want to take it out on people that you love. But just remember that your parents are always around to help you through every situation and they want you to talk it out with them.

I am am my parents only daughter and although I have gotten mad at them a few times, I have always shown respect and honor towards them. This has always helped us to be on good terms and have a loving and caring relationship. This to me is the best example of a picture perfect daughter.

Here is a link to a story that I have written about a Picture Perfect Daughter.

Monday, February 14, 2011

A Perfect LIfe

Have you ever wondered what a perfect life would be like? Have you ever wished that you had a perfect life? But what is a perfect life anyways? There have been times where I looked up to some people and thought that their lives were perfect and wished that I could have the life that they had. But you know what I found out? That there really isn't such a thing as a perfect life! What I mean is, is there really only one definition of perfect? How can every person in the world decide on the one ideal life? And how can each person in the world have that exact same life? If everyone had the same life, the world would be predictable and what fun would that be. Which is why I would like to share my idea of what my perfect life is:

My idea is of a perfect life is a simple idea, but also hard to accomplish if you aren't willing to try. First, since I am a Christian, one of the major characteristics of a perfect life is living a Christian life. This involves meditating on God's Word, being kind and helping others, and spreading His Word to everyone you meet. Now, spreading God's Word doesn't mean that you preach the His Word every minute of every day. Sometimes, being kind to others and having the Christian characteristics are very powerful tools in spreading God's Word. By showing others that it is possible to care about people around you and treating everyone like they are your neighbors, it can plant seeds into every life that you touch and enough seeds planted, will eventually start to grow and prosper. The second and final aspect of my idea of a perfect life is just to do what makes you happy. Don't let anyone influence your decision of what you want to do from your day to day life and your future career goals. I say if you aren't happy in life, then what's the point of living that life. If you let others' advise influence all of your goals in life, can you really say that it is your life's ambitions and dreams coming true? Or is it only a life full of other people's goals that you thought would be good in your life? And if they are other people's goals, are you really happy? Do you like the same things your closest friends and family like? The answer is probably no, which means that you most likely have to follow the path that works only for you.

In summary, the only things that I think makes up a perfect life is living a Christian life and being happy with how you decide to live your life. Does that seem simple enough? I did say it sounds simple, but going from day to day, I have had days that make it really hard to be happy or kind to others. But in the end, I know that if I don't being happy or act like the true Christian that I am, I couldn't live with myself when I reflect on that moment later on in life. Sometimes, the right thing is the hardest thing to do. But in the end, it is all worth it.

Click on the link below to read the story that goes along with this post that I wrote:
A Picture Perfect Life

Friday, February 4, 2011

First Blog

This is my first blog. I have never been a blog person, but I am a writing type of person. I find it hard to express my feelings out loud to anyone in my life. I even find it hard to write my feelings down in a diary, where the only person that would read it is me. What I have found that works is to create fictional characters and portray all of my thoughts, feelings, dreams, and aspirations inside a fictional story. This help me blow off steam when I'm angry, create fantastic situations in stories when I'm excited, and express the way I feel without the fear of being shut down in front of real people. Not everyone likes my ideas and my stories are a way to express my own ideas without people telling me that what I think is a good idea is really studpid or should never come true.