Friday, July 22, 2011

A Mistaken Romance

There are some relationships that we get into that may be alright for the time being, but later on, we discover that it was a mistake to be together. This doesn't just have to apply to intimate bf/gf relationships. This can also apply to friendships. I have made plenty of friends over my 23 years of life. I have made a few best friends, a lot of good friends, and a few friends that I no longer speak to and realize that maybe our relationship as friends probably should never had occured. With those few friends that I never speak to anymore, our relationship ended in the worst possible way. (E-mail me to know the whole story.) It's funny when you think about it. They might have been really nice, but the last memory of the person usually stick in our mind longer than the beginning of the friendship when it was very good. Why is that?

I think that even though we all may agree that these bad break-ups by friends, loved ones, etc. are mistakes, it never stops us from wanting to seek out new friends. I think the only thing you can do after a friendship ends is to learn what went wrong and know what not to do next time. You may not want to speak with the old friend for awhile, but when making new friends, you can try to avoid causing the same incident that occured in the previous friendship.

This was especially true in my next story. Follow this link: A Mistaken Romance. It is a story, how one woman was in a relationship with a guy in junior high and how that relationship spiraled out of control after ten years. Although she is still not with the guy anymore and has been happily married with someone else, the guy is still hung-up on her and wants to be with her. This is an example of how we can not change the past, but how we can still make the best possible future out of a current situation.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Sweet Revenge: Is It Really Worth It?

Have you ever felt like you needed to exact revenge on somebody that has said or done something to embarrass you? How many of you can actually say that revenge actually stopped the person from going after you again? People can be cruel sometimes. I haven't told many people about this, but when I was in 4th grade, I was a victim of emotional and physical abuse. There was only one instance where my "so-called" friends kicked me and resorted to physical abuse. As much as the physical abuse hurt me, the emotional abuse hurt way much more.

In 3rd grade, I was this happy-go-lucky 9 year old girl. But the very next year, every girl in the class had turned on me and started picking on me because they saw me as the weakest link. They learned that they could call me names or force me to do what they wanted, making me think that I would get something that I wanted in return. But in the end, they never gave me anything that they had promised me. Since I was shy and introverted young girl back then, I just stood back and let them push me around and put me down. I came home almost every single day of school, crying and wishing that the bullying would end. My parents would see if cry and comfort me and try to talk me through the situation. They would try to tell me how to handle the situation, but how was I supposed to take advice from my parents when they hadn't gone through anything like I had? Every time I was bullied at school, my parents would let the teacher know and she would have these separate group talks. But it just made everything worse. I felt like everytime we had to have group talks during our recesses, the teacher was just singling me out that I was the one that reported the problem. The girls all knew that I was the only one they picked on and they came after me even harder. Now, I just wished that I had the strength to stand up for myself, or even to just decide to not hang out with them.

I have to live with my experiences for the rest of my life. I resented what happened to me and hated the girls that bullied me for years to come. But that's in the past now. I may always hate what they did, but I can't let them run my life. I am stronger now because of that experience and I will not let anyone mess with my head again. The trick is to stand up for yourself and not let what the person says bother you.

The following link is a story that I wrote. It is a sequel to A Family's Support. After what happened in the previous story, the characters thought that they had to take revenge, instead of letting them receive their own consequences that are awaiting them later on. Sweet Revenge